Sep 25 2015 Tags: Wedding Ideas
For many people, marriage is the ultimate commitment and it is simply “the done thing”. You don’t spend your life not being married. However, if you are wondering whether or not to get married, you should never consider it if you are doing it only because it is the done thing.
So should you get married? Here are the things to consider:
Valid Reasons for Marriage
What are some valid reasons to get married? The biggest reason is, of course, out of love. If you feel a deep, spiritual connection to someone, a sense of being one, and they feel the same about you, marriage would be a logical next step. However, it isn’t just about love and at the risk of taking the romance out of it, when thinking about should you get married there are many considerations, you also have to think of the practical things.
One thing to think about is finances. It is highly unfortunate, but in today’s day and age, you must protect your own finances. You need to think about whether or not your bride will be able to support herself if something were to go wrong, or whether she is only interested because of the financial security you can offer her.
Naturally, a good way to protect yourself is by signing a prenuptial agreement. Again, it isn’t incredibly romantic and some people feel that it demonstrates a lack of trust, but you must protect yourself and your assets and finances unfortunately. There are other things to think about as well. One big thing is children. Children are incredibly important and you need to know you are on the same page in terms of whether you want children at all and if so, how many you want. Also consider how you want to raise these children in terms of religion and other beliefs. Being in disagreement over these types of things can mean the end of a relationship.
Where to Live Together
Lastly, you need to think about geography. With the world becoming a smaller place, it is increasingly common for people to meet someone from abroad. You need to think about whether or not you actually can get married. In many countries, a marriage license is required, which you may not be able to get if you are not from that country, this is common in Muslim countries if you are not Muslim.
Many men go to countries like Thailand and fall in love with the culture and a woman while on holidays. When you marry a Thai lady, you also marry her family and you will be seen to be rich, just because you are a foreigner. You really should check out the mother in law in this case, as many Thai marriages have failed due to very greedy in-laws who make life difficult for foreign men. If you get one of these families, it will take much more than a bunch of roses delivered to satisfy them.
You also need to consider whether you will be able to live in that country, or whether your bride will be able to come home with you. Again, this isn’t a very romantic part of the entire process, but it is something that you have to think about if you have fallen for a foreigner.